Great read. As the psalmist writes:

"You cause the grass to grow for the livestock and plants for man to cultivate, that he may bring forth food from the earth and wine to gladden the heart of man..."

There is a fine line between alcohol to "gladden the heart" and its propensity for abuse.

"Humans evolved to drink in the company of others, and we are long overdue for reconnecting with friends and extended family over a pint or glass of wine."

Indeed, I hope for the time to quickly come for all of us to reconnect over that pint or glass.


Thank you, again, for some pertinent insights into what we should be doing to overcome the challenges facing us to be authentic in the world today.


In pursuit of following a passion

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The answer is, I don’t know. In some ways, I don’t want to know.

All I know is that at this point, I need to see where it all takes me.

I have consistently said that I admire and respect everyone who finds their passion and pursues it. I am surrounded them.

My best friend loves flowers of all sorts and through the years has created beautiful gardens at her home.

Her spouse loves music, and after being downsized from his job after 20 years — one that caused him anxiety and stress —…


Number 10 should be Number 1. My spouse and I never planned anything financial (except his contributions to SEP IRA), and after 38 years, he was wondering if he was ever going to retire.

He got smart and researched about financial planners. He reached out to a financial planner who works almost exclusively with physicians, and it was the best decision he/we made.

After taking into account all of our financial data using a very long questionnaire, he concluded my spouse will be able to retire in less than a year. We never would have thought that.

Wish we would have been smarter decades ago. It would have saved a ton of anxiety, frustration, and perhaps even a bit of depression.


….or how I managed to become a short-order cook in a house of five

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A year and a half ago, we blended households with my nonagenarian in-laws. As with so many people who lived through the Depression, the experience had a profound effect on how they managed their life post-WWII.


One of the things that is overlooked is the comparative reality that gets in the way of progress (or maintenance), be it weight loss, career, finances, whatever.

As difficult as it is to get out of that mindset, I believe it is critical for us should we choose to solidify how we want to see ourselves.

Having been the "short, dumpy one" for lots of years, when I finally committed to bring myself to a healthy weight, losing 35 pounds in 4 months, it was an incredible experience.

You articulated much of what I experienced in the journey. Thank you.


Another way to look at a "life well lived" is to consider how you live each day. A priest once said to our congregation that "we will die as we have lived." From this perspective the point was that if we live each day with God, we will die with Him.

I often think about this mostly because I am a person who has trouble looking too far into the future; but I can experience the here and now, striving to be the best person I can be. Frequently failing when I try to do this on my own, I have found that my best days and encounters with others are those where I have this mindset.

Thank you for the read. I have Chaput's book on my Kindle, but have not had time to begin it. Thanks for the incentive.


Bunch of hooey. Wait until these draconian policies Biden "writes as EO" impact the entire populace; our borders are overrun by unchecked, unvaccinated populations perhaps fleeing Venezuela and other dictatorships, hurling themselves and their families (unless they are paid human traffickers) from the frying pan into the fire....all the while we peons watch as jobs are lost, cost of living rises, our children and children's children are born with a debt they can never pay back.

The political elite, like Nero, watch as cities like Portland burn night after night after night, and don't give a damn that long time…


We are what we repeatedly do — Aristotle

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Everything in this world boils down to what is done in repetition. Tides go out and come in on schedule.

Winter turns to Spring. Spring turns to Summer. Summer to Autumn, then circles back to Winter.

Nature repeats itself and never seems to tire of it.

I am certain there are countless numbers of people in this universe who are either born with an innate rhythm that moves them day to day, week to week, month to month, and year to year, or have acquired the habits that produce this rhythm. The…


Get it. When I started reading this article, I was skeptical because I like my daily list. I use mine, though, to help me develop the habits I want to hone. I saw a "Great Signature Classics" program called "Outsmart Yourself", and one of the programs suggested "adding a new activity each month". This was basically to keep the brain facile, and while adding something small each month while keeping the previous moth going might seem overwhelming, it hasn't been.

My goal is (as with most creative types, of which I am trying to figure out if I truly am…

Barbara Cleary

Certified Health Coach and freelance writer, striving to do what really matters in life…one day at a time.

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